“Just give me ten minutes please,” I said in an elevated voice to my two children as one called out “MOOMMMYYYY” and then the other. It was 8:00 a.m. on a Saturday morning. How can they be bickering already? I thought to myself.
I cuddled up under my blanket, anxious to dive into the Word and get lost for a moment with Jesus. Two minutes later, one barges in my room followed by the other. All I wanted was a few minutes alone with my Daddy. I knew I wouldn’t get the study time I needed or wanted, so I waited. As a single mom, it’s common for me to forego my quiet time for later in the day or at night once I know I can concentrate.
If you’re a single mom to smaller children, can you relate? They require so much of our time that it’s hard to find solitude. In an attempt to sneak in peace and quiet, we tiptoe around our home while they sleep, whisper long winded prayers like Lord, give me strength, and play hide and seek in hopes they take a while to find us.
Raising small children means our daily walk with God will sometimes take creativity and almost always take flexibility.
Just last week, I was in an in depth conversation with the Lord when I heard my door creek open and my four-year-old run up and kneel beside me. She never said a word for she knows that prayer time is uninterrupted time. Since she and I were the only ones awake, I allowed her to bring in her books as I read the Book. I peeked up at her only to find her watching me read. With her book in her lap, my daughter was mimicking me by doing absolutely nothing but being still with her book open.
As parents, our job is to train our children in the way they should go. (Prov. 22:6) The best way to do that is to show them what it looks like to follow Jesus. Following Jesus will include some routine days (when we can have our coffee and quiet time) and some where our home is chaotic and you can barely squeeze in an “Amen”. He doesn’t think less of us when we have to ask for a rain check on our one-on-one appointment because sweet innocent Suzie just colored all over the wall and tender little Timmy is terrorizing the cat again. In fact, I would like to think He has a real soft spot for us single moms, who are doing it on our own while juggling a full time job, housework, homework, sports, church functions, meetings, family and a social life (or lack thereof).
God isn’t surprised by our current season of life. Everything has to pass through His hands first. He hears our cries, sees our struggles and knows our hearts.
Our children are a gift given specifically to us because He knows we are the moms for the job. Even on the days we feel less than. Even when our rope seems to have ended long ago. Even when we are only able to read one verse of scripture. On the days when we just want to slip into a calgon bath to be taken far away (which are well deserved and not as many as I’d like), remember, they are only little once. There may come a time when we get too much quiet and the silence is deafening.
Look over the course of your day. Do you have five minute time slots that seem to go by wasted? What can you give up during those wasted minutes to use them on strengthening your relationship with the Lord?
Dianna Owens is a paralegal by day. She’s also a full time mommy to a nine-year-old inquisitive boy, Jeremy, and a four-year-old, sassy, strawberry blonde, Ava. After becoming a single mom three years ago, Dianna did a lot of soul searching. In 2013 she discovered a passion for writing and thus her blog was birthed. When she’s not chasing toddlers and drafting legal documents, you can find her at www.diannaowens.com. Dianna is also a part of a women’s ministry. Their daily dose of encouragement can be found at www.ignite2ignite.org.