Those early days when a girl is just about to be set free from the nest to fly on her own are the most crucial.
Everything that has been packed into her mind, soul, and spirit from years previous is now ripe. If those messages are true, then her first flight will most likely be a success. Sure she might tumble and scamper on the ground a few times, but there won’t be any catastrophes like crashing into the earth and not being able to get back up again.
However, if those messages of her mind, soul, and spirit aren’t true, if she wasn’t taught properly about her value to this world and to God – the unique treasure that He created her to be to accomplish His purposes – then her first flight will be daunting and possibly tragic. She will be on her own to sift through the lies this world tells her, and without even realizing it, she will make decisions based on what she knows.
After realizing her mistakes, she’ll try so hard to turn from them, but truth still won’t be there to catch her. So she’ll make the same mistakes again – and again.
About this time the Enemy – Satan – will begin to whisper to her that she’ll never learn to fly. She wasn’t fortunate like the ones around her.
And she’ll start believing that lie too.
For so many single women this is the path they find themselves. During their teenage years and twenties they make decisions about boys and dating and marriage that were not God’s best for them, but it was all they knew.
Then, years later, they are left with lifetime consequences and the Enemy’s voice saying, “It will never be different”, “You aren’t worthy”, “You aren’t one of the fortunate ones”.
Throughout our lives we are susceptible to the Enemy’s lies. Sometimes they come in through our own inner voices, sometimes they come from the media hype around us, and sometimes they come from Pharisee Christians who know a lot about Jesus but only a little about the Cross.
For single women, these voices whisper:
“He’s too good for you. Your past is too bad.”
“You will never be happy alone.”
“If you don’t do this or this or this, then you will never get a man.”
“I’m tainted. A good, Christian man would never want me.”
“I’ll never find someone who will accept all I’ve done.”
And they leave us in a cycle of defeat.
However, there is another path.
Jesus came to break the cycle.
However, we have to allow Him to break it in our individual lives.
How do we allow Jesus to break the cycle of defeat from our pasts?
1. We accept Him as our Savior.
Until we truly believe and accept Jesus’s free gift of salvation, then He cannot begin to break the cycle in our lives.
2. We learn and meditate on Truth.
Every day we replace the lies we believe, hear, and tell ourselves with God’s Word – Truth – about who we are and what our pasts are meant to be used for. This is not a “once a day” prescription. It is being in constant conversation with God throughout the day and every time an untrue thought comes into our minds.
3. We allow Truth to change our hearts.
When our hearts change, then our actions change. And when our actions change, then we see different results in our lives.
Two Truth Verses to Begin With:
God uses all things for good.
” And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
God makes all things new.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” 2 Corinthians 5:17
When the cycle is broken you can then see it’s purpose. That doesn’t mean you necessarily like your past any more, but you appreciate how it fits into God’s ultimate plan of redemption and glory.
The purpose of our past is to bring God glory for His power over sin and to bring other people to Him through the stories we live.
Are you believing lies about your past? Are they keeping you in a cycle of defeat? Do you wonder about the purpose of your past?
For years I believed that God was holding out on me by not giving me the husband and family I so desired. Finally, I surrendered to the truth that God loves me and has a perfect plan for my life. I wrote an eBook out of this experience called Fall for Him: 25 Challenges from a Recovering Single. It’s available now in PDF, Kindle and Nook formats. The purpose is to help single women see that their life is not waiting out there in the future for them. Their life is now. But it can only be fully revealed by being surrendered to Jesus – allowing Him break the cycle of defeat in their life by believing His truths.
If you are single, this book is for you, to help you take a tarnished past and create a clean future based on truth. If you’re married, this book is a great gift for that single woman in your life who is struggling with the desperate desire to be married. Maybe your niece, cousin, or sister. Maybe your best friend.
Go ahead. Reach out your hand. Bless this special woman with your love. Give her an eBook that will help. You can purchase a copy by visiting www.FallforHim.com.
Brenda considers herself a “recovering single” after years as a single woman chasing her dreams instead of God’s dreams for her. Now she lives with her two miracles: her husband who God physically saved from Cardiomyopathy after a dramatic heart transplant and her baby girl who will be born this month from those three hearts. Brenda encourages women to live a life surrendered to Jesus in every season on her blog, Triple Braided, and she recently published her first eBook, Fall for Him: 25 Challenges from a Recovering Single. You can also connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest.
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