I have a confession. I don’t always like my husband. Yes, you read correctly. I don’t always like him. Love? Of course. But not like. And guess what? He doesn’t always like me either!
If I’m not careful I can not like him a lot. That is if I focus on myself. But I want to like my husband. I want to remember all of his good qualities, why I married him, and even why I love him.
And I want to remember these things when the stakes are high. When we’re in the middle of a fight or I’m at my whits end. That way I can diffuse the situation by reminding myself that my emotions do not dictate reality. Most likely in a few hours, or maybe a few days, I will think he hung the moon again.
Otherwise I start to say words that are left out there, forever, hanging in his memories and mine. I start making threats that are not honoring to him or our marriage. And most of all, I start to doubt – everything – including God.
This is where my dislike turns into something completely different.
Today over at Intentional by Grace I write about what I did recently to help myself stop and focus on all I like about my husband – even when my blood is boiling and my face is hot!
Join me there, and be sure to leave a comment telling me how you diffuse your dislike for your husband!
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