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Today I’m talking with Faith McHaney! Faith says:
My advice would be to get before the Lord and truly find out what His will is for your life. That’s why you’re here, to fulfill His will for your life, and His will for you will happen whether you’re married or not. God created YOU for a purpose and He will definitely show it to you, and you don’t have to be married to carry out that purpose. Be encouraged and trust God.
Faith is 26-years-old and lives in Russellville, Alabama. She has a God-story filled with redemption and healing after facing depression and drug abuse. Read more about Faith below!
Brenda: First, tell us a little about yourself – your name, age, where you live, and where you grew up.
Faith: My Name is Faith McHaney and I am 26 years old. I live in a small town called Russellville, Alabama where you won’t find a stranger.
Brenda: Where do you work, and how did you get started in your job?
Faith: I am currently working at a local retail store called Cato Fashions. I started working at Cato’s in January 2010. Before applying to the Cato corporation I was going through a time in my life where I was battling with issues like depression, self-loathing and drug abuse and I was crying out to the Lord for a way out, for a new start. I put my life in His hands and began to fill out applications, and I actually didn’t hear from them until 3 months later. I will always be grateful to them because I feel that God used that job to give me a new beginning.
Brenda: Do you feel like your job is God’s calling on your life or do you hope it leads to something else one day?
Faith: I know that working at Cato is not God’s calling on my life. I believe that God has something more for me to do. I do believe that he has used Cato to prepare me for that calling.
Brenda: When you envisioned your life as a young girl, did you hope to have a career when you grew up or was your desire more for marriage and children or did you want both for your life?
Faith: That’s funny that you ask; I always envisioned myself as a wife with kids, something like a housewife. I would always say that I wanted to be married with a kid by the age of 25 and never really saw myself with a career until I turned 25 and got hit with the reality that I wasn’t a wife and I didn’t have any kids.
Brenda: What fires you up? What are you most passionate about in your life and in the world?
Faith: I get fired up when I think about women who settle for less because they don’t know their true worth and when I think about young girls who think that their body is the only worth they have . It breaks my heart and infuriates me at the same time. I just want to go to each girl/woman who has ever felt that way and tell them that they are beautiful and precious in the sight of God and that they don’t have to “flaunt their assets” “twirk” or “have sex with someone” to feel wanted or beautiful. They ALL need to know that they are wanted by God and help them understand Proverbs 31 on a deeper level.
Brenda: Are you involved in serving in your community or church? What, if any, ministries or organizations are you a part of?
Faith: I am a part of the Pinky Promise Organization, founded by a sweet lady named Heather Lindsey, which is an organization designed to help women keep a promise to remain pure and holy before the Lord. This organization keeps me accountable, and I belong to North Russellville Church in Russellville.
Brenda: Tell us one thing you LOVE about being single and one thing you hate (or your biggest struggle) about being single.
Faith: One thing I really LOVE about being single is the freedom! LOL! The freedom to go where I want without explaining it and do what I want without talking it over with anyone but God. It’s also a time where I’m finding that God and I are falling more and more in love with each other. LOL! Like I’m seeing my relationship with God in a whole new light, and if I weren’t single then I don’t think I would truly comprehend His unconditional love for me and that it’s this type of love that my future spouse and I deserve. My biggest struggle is seeing other couples all lovey-dovey and sometimes feeling like the 3rd wheel, that can be tough, but I try not to think about it.
Brenda: I imagine there are times when you feel content in your singleness and other times when you want to throw something across the room because of it, but overall, how do you feel about being a single woman? Is there more contentment and peace or more of the opposite?
Faith: I have definitely had times where I wanted to throw something across the room. There were times when I wanted to throw every man on earth across the room! LOL! But for me contentment came when I started seeing my singleness as a preparation period and an opportunity to get closer to the Lord.
Brenda: Do you ever get mad at God because you are single? When bitterness, discontentment, confusion, and even jealousy creep into your mind, how to you deal with it? Do you have a go-to person or scripture verse or something else that helps?
Faith: I wouldn’t say that I get mad at God, but there are times when I just think, “Maybe God just wants me to be single because that’s how He’ll get His glory out of my life”, and I have to just remind myself that God is so loving and He knows the desires of my heart and even if He does want me to be single it’s because He knows that’s truly what is best for me. I also like to meditate on Jeremiah 29:11 and Isaiah 40:31.
Brenda: How do you deal with loneliness?
Faith: I turn on worship music and read the bible or I get around my family and friends. It’s hard to stay lonely when you’re in the presence of the Lord or around people who love you.
Brenda: Do you struggle with obsessing about guys and dating? Like, if you’re interested in a guy or if you just start dating someone new, do you think about him constantly, analyze every conversation, and get overly attached quickly? Is so (or if not) how do you deal with your emotions?
Faith: I used to struggle with over-analyzing every conversation, and I would fall in love so quick. I think in one relationship I thought I was in love after about two weeks, and I never understood why they ended so quickly. It wasn’t until I started looking at my singleness differently that I realized that taking it slow and not putting pressure on it is the best way. You can learn a lot about each other on a friendly level, and there’s no pressure. There are times that those feelings might try to creep in, and when they do I submit those feelings to the Lord.
Brenda: What is your biggest pet peeve about the way single women are perceived?
Faith: That we are cursed or that there is something wrong with us. Like, why can’t we just love ourselves enough to want God’s best? Why is the automatic assumption that there is something wrong with us.?I think it’s especially hard when you grow up in the south. People look at you like you’re cursed if you tell them that you are single.
Brenda: Do you struggle with finding community in your local church? How do you find community in a world that seems coupled up?
Faith: I find that it is easier to find community for singleness outside of my local church. My friends and I all attend separate churches and since most of them are single, it isn’t that hard to find community.
Brenda: Are more of your girlfriends married or single? How do you find authentic friendships as a single woman?
Faith: Most of my friends are single so they can relate to my struggle….my married friends even relate to my struggle lol they were once single.
Brenda: Our perception of you is that you are living a fulfilled, purposeful life as a single woman. You’re not waiting around for marriage, but fulfilling God’s call on your life now. What would you say is your secret to doing this?
Faith: Fulfilling God’s call on your life simply requires full submission to His will and blocking out the negative voices of those around you because it may not be something that they understand, but it’s not for them to understand.
Brenda: What words of advice do you have for other single women who want to live with purpose now and not wait for marriage to start their lives?
Faith: My advice would be to get before the Lord and truly find out what His will is for your life. That’s why you’re here, to fulfill His will for your life, and His will for you will happen whether you’re married or not. God created YOU for a purpose and He will definitely show it to you, and you don’t have to be married to carry out that purpose. Be encouraged and trust God.
Brenda: And some fun stuff!
Brenda: Which do you like best – Facebook or Twitter or Instagram or Pinterest (or all of it!)?
Faith: It’s a tie between Facebook and Pinterest.
Brenda: What’s your favorite drink?
Faith: Powerade – the white one.
Brenda: Where would you want to live the rest of your life – beach or mountains?
Faith: The beach.
Brenda: Do you read more fiction or nonfiction?
Faith: Non-fiction.
Brenda: Are you an introvert or extrovert?
Faith: 100% extrovert
Brenda: What’s something quirky about you?
Faith: I AM QUIRKY, LOL, but seriously, I’ve heard that my laugh is kinda quirky! LOL!
Brenda: What else do we need to know about you? Where can we connect with you online?
Faith: Contact me if you want to chat, need prayer, or just need someone to listen You can add me on Facebook : Faith McHane. You can follow me on IG: F_A_I_T_H256. Email me: Latayeg@Gmail.com
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