Category: community

As girl moms, it’s important that we continue to grow ourselves becoming more like Jesus and of course stronger in who we are in Him. One part of growth is being strong in our community relationships.

  • Africa Ruined My Fun

    We sat in front of the T.V. on Saturday afternoon, flipping channels, wasting time, and landed on the food channel. You know the one. The channel where either a food artist works a decadent act of chemistry on a white, ceramic, canvas disk, making your mouth water and making you wish you were the artist in your own kitchen. Or you watch other people traveling around savoring the prepared art of someone else in order to make a fair judgment about it, which always seems to be a pleasant one they can’t resist.

    On this day we watched the latter. A man traveling around from city to city indulging in wonderful food in quaint hidden towns and hole-in-the-wall secrets.

    My mouth, too, began to water, and I wondered what great food I could be missing right here where I live.

    Then my mind flashed back.

    Back to that trip six months ago deep in the bush of Africa.

    The women starting preparing our dinner at two o’clock in the afternoon. They started with cutting the cabbage as the chicken ran around them for one last time.

    Four hours later dinner was served. Some men brought benches over for us to sit on to eat. They had a few forks for us, too, but not for everyone.

    In the pitch black night the rest of the village sat over on the other side of the hut, away from us, as we ate. There was no thought of them ever eating with us. That was simply unspeakable. So they waited until we were finished.

    Whatever was left would be theirs. First the men, then the women, then the children would eat. In that order. If there was no food left, then the children would go hungry that night. That’s the way it is. A man is more valuable than a child. After all, how would the family get food if the father died?

    Just recently I was listening to a sermon by someone. I don’t remember his name because I have several podcasts downloaded. The pastor told a story about traveling to another country and seeing the people in that culture literally bow down and worship statues and sculptures and things. Just like the golden calf in the Old Testament. “Who still worships objects?” he thought. How ridiculous that seemed.

    Then a woman from that country came to America. He asked her, “How do you like America?” assuming she would love it. Who wouldn’t?

    “I hate it”, she said. “There is so much idolatry. People worship their stomachs here.”

    His point was the hypocrisy in both his heart and the woman’s heart. And the realization that we are a very idolatrous nation even in the most concealed ways.

    I watched that Saturday afternoon the man on the food channel full of enthusiasm and smiles almost panting as he traveled from place to place trying different cuisines and variations of food, and my heart began to ache.

    No longer can I see abundance and not think about my Compassion child and the little girl without a dress and then fall on my own knees in confession of the love of things in my own life.

    God gave me His eyes for those few hours there in the Bush, and I brought them back with me to the Land of the Free. I cannot hide behind oblivion because I’ve seen it with my own eyes, with my own soul.

    No longer may I fully enjoy all that’s around me, but then again should I? Or should I view it from His perspective? Is all of this stuff really a blessing? Or is it more of a curse, keeping us further from Him?

    I don’t know the answers. I want a clear-cut line, but there’s not one. I want to accept His blessings with open hands for what they are – grace-filled gifts, but I don’t want to be deceived into thinking they’re blessings when they’re not.

    Africa may have ruined my fun of sitting and watching the food channel, but it opened my heart to His and made me think about making abundance my God. I’ll leave the line up to Him.

    How do you view abundance? How do you view idolatry? Share with me in the comments. I would love to hear from you.

     

  • Need Blogging Help?

    If you are a blogger, you probably have figured out by now that the longer you blog you more you realize how much you really don’t know about blogging.

    You might have started out like a lot of people – writing as a hobby to update grandparents who live far away with pictures and stories. Then you felt led to use your blog as a way to expand your influence through ministry or to earn an income.

    That’s when the ball dropped. No longer was this little thing called blogging a hobby. The more you read about blog design and building platforms and monetization the more it felt like a job, and the more you realized that you might just need some training for this new blogging job.

    Recently I found myself in this place – just needing some help. But help, as you know, doesn’t come cheap. However, it does come affordable. That is if you ask the right person to help you.

    I introduce to you Christin at Joyful Living Media!

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    Christin offers blog critiques, writing critiques, social media critiques, and blog consultation services at extremely affordable prices.

    What was I most impressed with by her services?

    • For such affordable rates, Christin was very prompt in her response times and communication with me. She sent me a template to complete asking me about my goals, etc. for blogging, and within a day the consultation process began.
    • Christin’s email responses were JAMMED packed with information including links for further resources. She did not just give a quick 1, 2, 3 on what to do.
    • Each email response was custom tailored to address my goals and my needs. It was obvious that she took the the time to really focus on me.
    • All the information out there about blogging is overwhelming to me. Christin helped to bring it all together and showed me what I needed to focus on first.

    If you are a beginner to intermediate blogger, I highly recommend the services at Joyful Living Media! Click over today and find out more! You will be so happy to see the affordability of Joyful Living Media without losing the quality service or the help you’re looking for!

    Share with us. What is your biggest blogging hurdle? 

     

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  • The Blessing of (in)RL

    This past weekend I joined hundreds of other women around the world in hosting the (in)RL conference in my home.

    In the middle of vulnerability my door opened and in walked four women who God ordained to meet me there, with Community, in order to create a place where we can learn and serve and love more fully.

    But there was one woman in particular that God brought to my house, and this woman is who my (in)RL meetup was specifically created for. Her name was Jessica, and she came without having ever met me or anyone else, and with a heart opened wide for whatever may enter. Full of courage. Full of risk. Full of a  head full of what-ifs, she came. Authentic and real, she came.

    Shortly after I opened the door and invited Jessica in she said to me , “I’ve been here ten years, and I still don’t have any girlfriends. I need girlfriends.” Later as we discussed a webcast she said out loud, “And I can’t help but wonder if I’ll see any of you again. If you’ll want to see me again. If you’ll want to be my friend.”

    This is the reason (in)RL was created. This is the embodiment of Christ coming into our homes, our lives, or communities so that we can love and be loved.

    Jessica reached out to Community, and she met her there. I reached out to Community, and she met me there, too.

    Here are a few pictures from our (in)RL conference:

    Our (in)RL Ladies

    Giveaway Gifts from Dayspring
    The Lunch

  • An Amazing Friend with an Amazing Vision

    It was the middle of summer last year when I first met this woman who I call amazing. In reality I’ve never actually met her – only talked to her a couple of few hours on the phone and over email many, many times.

    But even though our eyes have never locked, our spirits certainly have, and there is no doubt I’ve met her there.

    The first time we talked on the phone she spoke a mile a minute. I couldn’t quite tell if it was because I was sitting in my living room in the deep south where everything is slow including our talk, or if she was just really, really excited.

    Come to find out it was the latter. And more than her being excited she was filled with a vision from the Holy Spirit. When the Holy Spirit gives you a vision He starts to talk for you.. It’s hard to make God slow down with something this big.

    She shared with me that day her vision to bring the stories we all share as women – our legacies – to each other as a place to know that we are not alone, we can be healed by the power of God in our lives, and God has a plan. She wanted her story of God’s redemptive power to be known, and she wanted to give other women the same opportunity to share their stories. In order to do this God told her to start a conference for women – now called Legacy: Seasons of Beauty – and so she did.

    Jennifer Wagenmaker is my friend’s name. She is amazing because she listened to God’s voice and leading and with boldness and courage set out in obedience to accomplish a vision He gave her.

    Since that time, Jen,and the co-founder of Legacy, Tana, have organized several “Mini Legacy Nights” where women have come together to worship and hear powerful testimonies.

    And October 12-13, 2012 Legacy will host its first women’s conference at the Holiday Inn in Muskegon, MI. Find out all the details on the Legacy website!

    I invite you to get to know the ladies behind the Legacy Conference. If you live in the Muskegon, MI area, come to a Mini Legacy Night, and make plans to attend the Legacy: Seasons of Beauty women’s conference in October.

    I am blessed to have met Jen on that hot summer day when the Holy Spirit took over her voice and her heart as she shared with me her vision, and I know that you will be blessed by meeting her too!

    Do you live in the Muskegon, MI area?

    Find out more about Legacy: Seasons as Beauty by visiting their website.  And if you don’t live in the area, follow Legacy on Facebook to keep up with all that God is doing in this ministry!

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  • Moving from Blogger to WordPress? – My Advice

    At the end of February I began the journey from moving from Blogger to WordPress.  I say journey because that is exactly what it was – a journey.  A journey that just ended at the end of March.

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    Now for those of you who are tech-savvy and knowledgeable in all things computer, count your blessings.  That is one skill that I wish I had because it would make life a whole lot easier (and cheaper). But even though I have learned a lot over the past few years blogging, there are some things I am still not comfortable with and moving my whole blog to another platform without knowing what the heck I’m really doing in not one of them.  It takes me a long time to figure out just the smallest online tasks, and even then I usually have a hiccup.  The threat of losing everything was enough for me to hire someone without a second thought.

    And so that’s what I did.

    I hired a person who was recommended, has a beautiful website, seems very talented (and I’m sure she is), AND was half the price of what I expected to pay.  Bingo!  She landed the grand prize for the job.

    Except that the job ended up being bigger than what she expected – I think.  I am assuming she is better at designing than the really techy stuff.  As days turned into weeks with glitch after glitch, finally communication stopped.  Yes, stopped, and my blog was in an upheaval and not completed.  It’s hard to get someone to respond to an email when that’s the only form of communication you have – no phone number, no address (not that I would really pay a visit), nothing.  And so I was stuck.

    Luckily, the wonderful, wonderful women at DIY MinistryLisa Boyd and Amy Bayliss – came to my rescue.  I know that sounds dramatic, but that’s truly what it was – a rescue.  Come to find out my blog was in more of a shambles that I had known. (Blogger even contacted me saying that they were deleting the blogspot URL because they found malicious code? or something?)  It became a bit of a nightmare.

    So my advice for moving from Blogger to WordPress?

    1. Don’t go with the most inexpensive business to do the migration.

    2. Ask for references that you can contact.

    3. Request daily emails or updates on how the migration is progressing, and when it is expected to be complete.

    4. Get your advice and help from DIY Ministry.

    DIY Ministry

    Are you considering making the move? What questions do you have? Or if you’ve made the move from Blogger to WordPress, what is your advice?

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  • Are You in Need of Community?

    As I get older, finding and maintaining friendships seems to get harder. Sometimes I think it’s because being an introvert I can go a pretty long time without realizing how much I need my girlfriends. Then it’s like I start bouncing off the four walls of my house wondering why my mind won’t settle down and my heart is so discontent.

    Regardless of my personality, I need community. God made me this way, and when I starve myself from it I begin to feel the effects and life seems to unravel a bit.

    Maybe you are the same way. Maybe you just graduated college and all of your friends are now dispersed all over the country following their paths and dreams. You’re finding that it’s a lot harder to make connections with like-minded women without the dormitory or college organization to bring you together.

    Or maybe you’re the mom – either full-time homemaker or working outside the home – in the trenches of motherhood and family life and all that it entails. You love your family. You love your job as wife and mommy, but your soul still aches for just one person, or maybe a few, to do life with.

    Quite possibly you’re on the other side of motherhood. You’re now in a place where life has slowed down, and you’re looking back as your years raising those babies who have now flown the coop. There was no time to cultivate friendships then, but now you have the time.

    No matter what your life circumstance or situation, the ladies at (in)Courage are helping us carve out a little space in our lives, one Saturday afternoon, to come together with friends we know and friends we have yet to meet through the (in)RL Conference.

    (in)RL is a meetup opportunity that allows us to build community with friends we already have in our real lives, but may have trouble finding the time to get together with,  friends we may know online through blogging and reading others’ blogs, and even other women in our communities that we have yet to meet.

    What will we do at (in)RL?

    Primarily have girl time!  And of course that means food, giveaways, good conversations, and an awesome webcast created by the women of (in)courage!

    Check out the webcast agenda and more information here!

    So how to you join an (in)RL meetup?

    1. Go to the (in)RL website, and click on the “Check Meetup Map” icon on the right. Find out here where there is a meetup closest to you.

    2. Then, click “Register” on the (in)RL website.

    3. You will find all the details about your meetup when you register.

    If you’re in the Triad, NC area, I’m hosting!

    I would love to meet you! Go to our meetup page to RSVP, and be sure to register, too.  If you have any questions, email me at brenda@brendarodgers.com.

    So is community kind of scary?

    Yes, building community especially with people you do not know well is kind of scary. I get nervous any time I go into a situation where I do not know people well. And am I nervous about hosting (in)RL? A little bit! There are a million “what ifs” going through my mind.

    But I just think of all the possibilities! The possibilities of connecting with other women, making new friends, and sharing life together! We will all be in the same situation, so come, connect with other women, and get your community fix at (in)RL!

    Are you attending an (in)RL meetup in your area? If so, share with us in the comments!

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