Category: surrender

Every day writing my Compassion child, who lives in Burkina Faso, West Africa, is on my to-do list. And every day it gets moved to the next day. This has been going on for months . . . and months, since I came back from visiting her in last November.

Yes, it’s been that long.

 My guilt is real, and I feel it. But that doesn’t make me write. Neither does thinking about Burkina and my child every single day. Every time I turn on the water and remember that she does not have clean water or every time I visit Walmart and become disgusted by my own consumption.

No, none of this makes me write, not even my cries to Jesus to come soon because she needs Him – I need Him.

Instead I just try to comfort myself by rationalizing my procrastination. “Oh, she doesn’t remember me” or “My letter doesn’t really matter that much to her” or “I’m only One clear across the world.”

I mentioned my months of not writing to my husband, and he just looked at me. Then he said this, “Brenda, writing to her is more important than all this other stuff you’re doing”.

Conviction set in deep.

I have not been a good steward of this child God has given me. 

Last week another team from my church made a short-term mission trip to Burkina Faso. They planned to visit the Compassion site where my child attends.

So a week earlier I got out a gallon-sized Ziploc bag and filled it with gifts I thought she would like. A t-shirt – she always could use a new t-shirt. The composition book I received from Dayspring to review along with some fun colored gel pens. A small bottle of nailpolish. A letter written in English that I hoped someone could translate for her. And a picture of she and I when we met for the first time.

I wanted her to like the bag of goodies, but for me it was more of a peace-offering. I wanted to tell her that I am sorry. I felt a little better.

I drove to the church and dropped off the bag with a friend who was going on the trip. I asked her to please give it to my sweet Compassion child.

The next Wednesday night, after my friend had arrived in Burkina Faso, I opened up Facebook. The team was blessed with a wonderful internet connection on their trip, and we were the ones who benefited. Each day they posted up-to-the minute pictures and stories.

One picture surprised me. I was tagged in it with this caption:

“Brenda! We were walking through the village today and this girl came running up to me with picture in her hand. I looked at it and it was YOU with a Compassion letter you had written her!! I screamed, “That’s my friend” and I think I frightened her. We go to compassion tomorrow. So excited!!”

It was my Compassion child. My Compassion child running through the village with a picture of my husband and me.

Uncontrollably tears streamed down my face as I looked at her holding the picture. The picture of me.

Instantly “only One” mattered.

Often times we dismiss the voice of the Holy Spirit urging us to make that phone call or send that card or write that email or give that gift under the lie that we are “only One”. What possibly could only One matter? What possibly could only One make different? What possibly could only One change?

Then there is a girl, running through a village in Africa, carrying your picture.

And you realize that only One doesn’t matter, but only One under the sovereignty of God does.

You may never see a the person God’s led you to serve holding a picture of you. You may never get a thank-you whispered from their lips. You may always wonder if you truly matter.

But know that if you are being obedient to God’s small voice, then you are not the only One. He is orchestrating His purposes far more than you or I can conceive. He makes you a steward so that His hands and feet become real to those around you. 

Today’s Challenge: Be obedient to God’s small voice. Don’t listen to your own voice telling you that you are “only One”. Just do whatever He is prompting you to do anyway – even if it’s a little inconvenient or hard or scary. He will provide all that you need when you obey. He wants to use you because you matter – to someone.

What do you tend to put-off under the belief that you are “only One”? 

 

What is a True Woman? 

Is it a woman who can accomplish much in a little bit of time?

Is it a woman who is successful in business and at home?

Is it a woman who seemingly achieves perfection?

Is it a woman whose outward beauty turns heads and attracts attention?

Is it a woman who demands her rights and isn’t taken advantage of?

Every day the world answers this question for women. And every day the description changes ever so slightly based on culture’s new ingredients. Some days a true woman is one who wears the latest styles. Then a true woman is one who is frugal in her dress. The next day a true woman is one who bakes everything from scratch. Then she is known for only serving her family whole foods from the earth. Later she is a woman who doesn’t take no for an answer and stands up for herself with pride. Then she is praised for her keen observation and slow speech.

Like a pendulum that never stops swinging, women sway back and forth striving to achieve each new title given for a True Woman. The pendulum is misleading, but we stand there chasing it anyway. No matter how close we come there is always a hole that cannot seem to be filled.

Women were not created to chase the swinging pendulum of the culture.

We are not designed to bend to each day’s new definition of a True Woman. Striving. Competing. Achieving.

We are simply meant to rest. Rest in God’s sovereignty. Rest in His truth. Rest in His provision. Rest in His desires. Rest in His plan.

A True Woman is found in a place of rest.

As daughters in Christ our identity of true womanhood is already defined. This truth allows us to rest.

In only one month, September 20-22,  you have the opportunity to do just this – find a renewed place of rest – at the True Woman 2012 Conference.

At True Woman ’12 women who desire rest from all the battling messages in our culture will come together to authentically seek Jesus for:

• Refreshed understanding of our design and mission as women.
• Restored lives that reflect Christ’s beauty and heart.
• Renewed passion for passing God’s Truth on to the next generation.
• Revival: we need to urgently plead for God to pour out His Spirit on us and our land.

Well-known Christian authors and speakers such as Nancy Lee DeMoss, Mary Kassian, Joni Eareckson Tada, Priscilla Shrirer, and Janet Parshall will be speaking along with speakers for the teen track. There will also be a worship band.

Each day of the three-day conference will include main sessions and breakout sessions for you to grow deeper in your understanding about God’s design for a True Woman.

Find out more information on the True Woman ’12 website, and prayerfully consider registering here to get your tickets (group discounts are available)!

Also, join my friends Leigh Ann and Nikki at Intentional by Grace and over 100 other women as they prepare for the True Woman 2012 Conference by doing a study of biblical womanhood using the book True Woman 101 by Mary Kassian and Nancy Leigh DeMoss (Moody Publishers). Simply ask to join their private Facebook community where they discuss weekly God’s definition of a true woman. And make sure to buy the book to follow along!

 What is your description of a True Woman?

 

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Two years ago on this day I sat on this bench. It was across from the elevators on the fifth floor of Duke University Hospital.

We had been in the hospital for over two weeks already, but only in the past week had the circumstances become dire.

My husband laid down the hall, not far from where I sat, on life support. His sick heart had already stopped once. If he did not receive a heart transplant within a few days he would die.

After only two years of being married and after years and years of begging God for a husband, He was asking me to give my new husband back.

My heart was broken.

That morning, as I sat on the bench, his heart surgeon came to me with the news. John was matched with a heart. They were going to make the trip to take a look at it in just a few hours.

The transplant started at around 9:38 that night. Our family and several friends stayed up until it was finished at 5:30 the next morning.

The story is intense, filled with drama. Each tick of the minute hand of the clock was like jumping over a cliff. I never knew when they might come and tell me it was over.

I tell this story often. I write about it often. I can’t help it.

This is the story of my God and His majesty. With each of those minutes ticking God sustained me. I felt His supernatural peace for the first time in my life. I still don’t know how that can be except that it is the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit.

The Bible explains to us more than once the importance of moving forward and not dwelling on things of the past.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. (Isaiah 43:18-19).

But at the same time God tells us the importance of remembering.

In Samuel 7 the Israelites call out to God to help them defeat the Philistines. God came through for them, and this is what is written:

“Samuel then took a large stone and placed it between the towns of Mizpah and Jeshanah. He named it Ebenezer (which means “the stone of help”), for he said, ‘Up to this point the LORD has helped us!’ So the Philistines were subdued and didn’t invade Israel again for some time. And throughout Samuel’s lifetime, the LORD’s powerful hand was raised against the Philistines. (1 Samuel 7:12-13).

Samuel put that stone there between the two towns to help the Israelites remember that God had answered their prayers.

The Israelites are known for their forgetfulness. Over and over and over again in the Old Testament we see them pursuing God, forgetting God, turning away from God, and then begging God for forgiveness again. Reading their stories I often wonder how they could be so dense. Why couldn’t they remember God’s mercy from the previous dozen times and stop the same idolatrous behavior?

Over the past two years, though, I have forgotten often what God did for me during those days sitting on that bench outside of the elevators on the fifth floor of the hospital.

I forget that God heard my prayers. I forget that God gave me what I needed. I forget that God was in control. I forget how close to God I was during that time.

I simply forget.

You might think that these years since my husband’s heart transplant have been filled with love and roses everyday.

That’s not the case. The past two  years have been hard just like any other years.

Mainly because I forget. I forget the truths God taught me and the peace I felt during those days in the hospital, and I start trying to operate on my own again. Just like the Israelites did. For some reason I think that I have the small stuff – the everyday stuff – like expectations in marriage and dealing with family members and learning to be a mom for the first time.

On the scale of life, the everyday seems like the easy stuff. 

For me heart transplants are easy. Giving my life to God every. single. day. is what is hard. 

Today I don’t face a heart transplant, but I face other circumstances that seem so small I can take them on all by myself. Really God is asking me to remember Him and allow Him to take them for me.

“Let the one who is wise heed these things and ponder the loving deeds of the Lord. (Psalm 107:43)”

How has remembering the past helped you? Please share your story in the comments!

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For many years my mom wrote in that blank two words – mommy and homemaker.

Now at 36 years of age, as my dream of becoming a homemaker has become a reality, I am wondering how I missed the Bachelor’s degree in homemaking because it is so much harder than I thought.

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I cry watching the U.S Olympic gymnastics team.

I don’t just mean a few tears either. I mean full on sobbing. I just sit there and cry.

Then one of the gymnast’s parents are interviewed. They feature the young hopeful’s story, her road to the gold, how her parents sacrificed it all to get her there, and I cry some more.

When I was a little girl I wanted to be one of two people: Nadia Comaneci or Mary Lou Retton.

When my class took its weekly visit to the school library, I bypassed the card catalog and went straight to the 900’s. I knew their books would be waiting for me there.

I read the same two books again and again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I wanted to be just like them.

One of my favorable attributes was my short frame. Now I stand at a grand total of 4’11” tall (or 5’0”) depending on who’s doing the measuring. I don’t remember how tall I was then.

I am also built like a gymnast – with a few less muscles mind you, but I could have gotten there. Muscles stick on well when there’s not much room for them stretch out.

I even took gymnastics classes for a while.

There was only one problem.

I was afraid of the uneven bars. And probably the balance beam if I’m honest with myself.

When the tumbling practice was exhausted and it was time to move on to something requiring more fortitude, more risk, I bowed out gracefully.

I blamed it on my fear of heights.

Maybe that was true. Except that I never even got up onto the uneven bars. Not even once.

In that moment, fear won.

Maybe it was the fear of falling and getting hurt or falling and being embarrassed. Maybe it was the fear of not being good enough. Maybe it was the fear of others laughing at me or thinking, “What does she think she’s doing up there?” Maybe it was the fear of succeeding.

I don’t know the source of my fear.

All I know is that I quit gymnastics because of fear, and twenty-six years later I still remember it.

But it didn’t stop there.

Today I quit because of fear too.

Back in the summer of last year my church began planning a mission trip to Burkina Faso, West Africa. I sat there the Sunday it was announced, and my heart started beating fast. You know who’s speaking when your heart starts beating fast, right? Of course, the One I want so often to ignore. But He has a tendency to keep knocking, and he did.

Years earlier, as a teenager, I prayed a very specific prayer for God to not make me a missionary and send me to Africa. I was at a crossroads in my relationship with Jesus – at a place where I knew that I had to be all in or all out. If I was all in then He might just ask me to do scary things. I didn’t want to do scary things.

It took Him twenty years, but on that Sunday He asked me to go to Africa for a week on a short-term mission trip.

I cried. I bawled. I begged not to go. I came up with every excuse in the book – I’m married now. I have to take care of my husband. What if I get pregnant right before we go. What if I don’t raise all the money. What if something happens when I’m there. What if I’m changed. What if I come back changed. What if my life changes.

Through all of the tears and fretting and excuse-making, one truth continued to whisper in my mind:

Fear can’t be your reason.

There may be other valid reasons to not go to Africa on a mission trip, but fear can’t be one of them.

We are all afraid of something – quitting a job we hate, starting a new job we might just love, sacrificing money to be with our children more, moving to a new place, mending a broken relationship, speaking truth into someone’s life, pursuing a passion, a dream, a calling.

But fear cannot be the reason you stop. There may be other reasons worth quitting for, but it can’t be fear.

Why Can’t Fear Be Your Reason?

Because God does not give us a spirit of fear.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV).

So if you have a spirit of fear, then that spirit is not from God. God is not in your decision. God is not the One leading you stop moving forward.

Today ask yourself, is my decision based on fear? If it is, then either get a new reason or don’t stop doing what God is calling you to do. Because fear can’t be your reason. If it is, then He’s not there.

What decisions have you made out of fear? 

 

 

He began asking me to do it several years ago.

Surrender that is.

I was single at the time, though, and if surrendering meant that I wasn’t going to get married, then I wasn’t going to surrender.

I continued going to church, leading a small group, serving on a committee or two, and praying.

Praying for my will to be done.

I was surrendered in the Christian things. Surely that was surrendered enough.

I also kept working. Working to make my will a reality by dating guys who I knew were not God’s best. But after all, at least I’d be married. Right?

I never completely surrendered, but for some reason He brought me my husband. I don’t know exactly why really. I wish the story was written that I surrendered, then I was rewarded. But that’s not how it played out.

Instead surrender was slow. I would give up a lie or two that I had been believing for a while, trying hard to believe truth but not always wanting to. Later the belief came.

Slowly my thoughts began to surrender.

Then He asked me again. Will you surrender now?

But this time He was not only asking me to surrender my future. He was asking me to surrender flesh and blood.

My new husband of only two years laid down the hall of the hospital on life support. If he didn’t receive a heart donor within a few days he would die.

Will you surrender now?

I prayed and cried and prayed and cried. But in the end I finally said, “Your will be done”.

I left my husband, the one I had begged God to give me for years previous, there at the altar. The sacrifice of my will.

My reward? A peace that is so supernatural, so glorious I could never explain it to you in fonts and symbols. But I am here to tell you that it’s real.

When we got married we braided a cord of three strands as a part of our wedding ceremony. One cord represented myself. One cord represented my husband. And one cord represented God.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 says that a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

For me, this is the surrendered life. A cord of three strands – not just one and not just two, but three.

Cords of three do not just apply in a context of marriage.

You are always there. You are always one of the cords. One of the other cords is anyone you do life with – your family members, your sisters in Christ, your children, your churches, your ministries.

And then there is His cord. God’s cord, the One who has to be invited in. When we invite Him and give Him His place there, our lives then can become surrendered.

After Jesus’s resurrection two disciples were traveling to Emmaus. They were discussing all that had happened the past week and seemed somewhat confused. Then Jesus appeared and began walking with them. He listened to them and answered their questions. As Jesus continued on with the disciples He joined them for dinner, broke bread, and suddenly their eyes were open. (Luke 24:13-35)

When Jesus joins our cord of two He creates an even stronger braid – on that is not easily broken – one that opens our eyes and makes a surrendered life possible.

And one that allows us to experience His peace.

What does a surrendered life mean to you? Does it make you nervous to surrender?