Category: Traditions and Holidays

  • When My Daughter Told Me She’s Awful {an Easter story}

    When My Daughter Told Me She’s Awful {an Easter story}

    My daughter stared at me with a stoic stare, “No, I’m not,” she said, “I’m awful.”

    Fear ran through my veins hearing these words come out of my six-year-old girl’s mouth. Her response to my praise, “You’re such a good girl, do you know that?” made my mind swirl with what I should say next. Do I argue with her to convince her that she’s not awful? Do I reprimand her with, “I never want to hear you talk about yourself like that again!” Or maybe I dig deep to get to the source of who or what put these thoughts in her head?

    “Really? Why are you awful?” That’s what I came up with.

    “Because of my sin,” she replied matter-of-fact.

    At this point my fear turned to gratefulness, as crazy as that sounds. I knew I needed to do some work to help her understand that her sin is awful but that she is good, however, one of my prayers for my daughter has been that she recognizes that she is a sinner. I knew that until she came to the realization that she’s a sinner she couldn’t come to the realization that she needs a Savior.

    When we moved into Rodgers Manor, as I like to call it, not only did we inherit a Victorian home but about an acre or so of gardens came with it. It’s really beautiful. Two years ago we moved here, and up until now, I haven’t wanted anything to do with gardening. What you need to know about me is that I’m a city girl. Like growing up and even until I got married I lived where there was a grocery store a mile to my right and another grocery store a mile to my left. My garden was a concrete jungle. I kid you not. Getting my hands dirty even to gain something as beautiful as hydrangeas and roses wasn’t worth it to me.

    This year something changed. I don’t know what exactly, but I regularly weed and prune. I even like it, including the dirt caked under my nails. The girls help me weed the gardens, and this is where I took it with my daughter.

    What is your favorite flower?” I asked her. She told me a pink rose. I’m guessing that’s the only flower she knows well. “Imagine that you are a tiny rose seed. God plants you deep in the soil. He takes care of you, giving you water and sunlight. You grow taller. Your pink pedals stretch wider and wider. God looks at you and thinks that you are the most beautiful rose He’s ever seen.

    Then something starts to grow all around you and up your stem. It tries to strangle you and take you over so that you’re no longer beautiful. These are the weeds, like the weeds in our garden. Weeds are like sin in our lives. Sin wants to take over our lives leading us further and further from Jesus.

    But Jesus is like our Master Gardener. When Jesus died on the Cross He made it possible for all those weeds, all that sin, to be cut away – just like we pull the weeds out of our garden and cut them away from our flowers.

    But what happens in our garden? Do the weeds stay away? No, they come back. And our sin comes back, too, because we have a sin nature. Just like we can’t get rid of the weeds in our garden forever, we won’t be perfect and without sin, until we get to heaven.

    However, this is the good news – Jesus’ death on the Cross makes it possible for us to one day be perfect with Him in heaven. And until then? His blood covers us in righteousness. So, sweet girl, you are not awful. Your sin is awful just like my sin is awful. But you are very, very good. Jesus looks at you and smiles. You’re His beautiful rose.”

    Yes, our sin is awful, and apart from Jesus, we are awful people. But there’s Good News … this Easter meditate on Jesus’ blood literally covering your body. This is His blanket of protection over us which makes us righteous and new in His eyes. Weeds will always come, but Jesus’ blood allows them to be removed. Then, seeing Him face-to-face in heaven one day will make us completely holy as He is completely holy.

    As I tell my girls, when Jesus was being nailed to that Cross, He was saying your name. He was saying each name of every person who ever had lived and ever would live on this earth. Praise be to God!

    Happy Easter!

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  • What I’m Doing for Lent this Year

    As a Baptist-ish girl, I didn’t grow up observing Lent. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even know Lent was a thing. I didn’t know Advent was a thing either except for the bubblegum Advent calendar we hung up every Christmas. Each day we took off a new piece of gum and chewed it to count down to Christmas. So “Advent” is a loose description of our count-down-to-Christmas bubble gum decoration.

    Lent Resources

    However, in my 20’s I went to a Methodist church for a while. This is where I started learning about the liturgical calendar and when Advent and Lent became a thing in my life. There’s more to the liturgical calendar than Advent and Lent, and there’s a lot about it I still don’t know, but I’m learning. (By the way, this podcast series by The Simple Show has been wonderful lately.)

    Now my family and I go to a large non-denominational church, and the liturgical calendar is not recognized hardly at all. However, in our home, I observe Advent and Lent and teach these church traditions to my girls.

    You might be most familiar with Lent as a time you give something up that you love like chocolate or Coke or T.V. Some years I’ve given something up, but it’s not something I do every year. However, this year I felt led to give up, or fast, two things in my life – two things I truly love right now – Instagram and sugar. Put me on the sofa with a brownie in one hand and my phone scrolling Instagram in the other and I might as well be at the beach sunbathing all by myself. It’s an escape, and I love it!

    Well, obviously I love it a little too much. You know, when you feel led to give something up for Lent and the thought makes you almost cry and dread it with everything in you, you’re probably on to something. So tomorrow here goes nothing – no more Instagram or sugar. Geez. I tell you this so that I’ll have to do it.

    All joking aside, my hope is that during these 40 days these distractions (or should I be so bold to say idols) dissipate so that I’m able to pray with assured hope and hear God’s voice clearly. In my life right now there are a lot of needs. I have personal needs, my extended family has needs, my friends have needs, and our country and the world have needs. More than ever I’ve felt the call to pray fervently.

    I’ve used different Lenten devotionals in the past, but this year I bought this one from Erin Moon. What I love about it from first glance is that it has an audio version (I’m in the car A LOT running these little girls around town, so this way I can listen and they can hear too) and it has a playlist which is so good!

    If you’re familiar with YouVersion or Bible.com, there are several Lenten reading plans there too.

    And here are two that I have used in the past: Jesus, Keep Me Near the Cross by Nancy Guthrie and Lent and Easter Wisdom from St. Francis and St. Clare of Assisi.

    So here’s to the start of Lent! I’d love to hear your thoughts on Lent, any resources you use, and what you’re fasting.

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  • Should We Forbid Our Children from Giving Gifts to Make Other People Comfortable?

    Should We Forbid Our Children from Giving Gifts to Make Other People Comfortable?

    When I was growing up my mom gave everyone she came into contact with during the Christmas season a gift. Teachers, coaches, nurses, bus drivers, office staff, doctors, sanitation workers. You name them, and she gave them a gift. That gift usually consisted of a 50 cents box of chocolate-covered-cherries wrapped and tied with a bow. Or, since she cross-stitched, sewed, and crafted, something homemade.

    I got my obsession with Christmas gift-giving from my mom. I don’t give as many as she did, but I have a rock in my gut if I go anywhere during December without a gift. Just last week I went to see my counselor for the last time before January. I brought her a gift. She said, “You’re not supposed to bring your counselor a gift.” I thought, “Oh, yes I am. I’m a product of my mother!” It’s fun to give gifts.

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  • Why I’ll Never Start the New Year on January 1st Again

    Why I’ll Never Start the New Year on January 1st Again

    Y’all. January has been brutal.

    This year I was pumped for the new year. I started planning early. Ordered my new Simplified Planner. Bought my Powersheets. Downloaded the materials for the Read Aloud Revival Challenge to do with EG. Chose my “One Word.” Thought about books I wanted to read. And wrote out a menu to start Whole30.

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  • How We Do Santa Around Here

    How We Do Santa Around Here

    My five-year-old stood in line to see Santa this year, turned around and looked at me perplexed. “But Mama, Santa’s not real!?” she announced in a too-loud voice.

    I stammered to get out the words, “No! Shhhh!”, as I approached her in case she decided to make her case further and I needed to cover her mouth. I darted a wide-eyed glance to my husband before scanning the parents around me to see if anyone was glaring back. No one was, but I still felt the need to say a quiet, “I’m so sorry” just in case.

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  • My Favorite Things to Start a New Year

    My Favorite Things to Start a New Year


    Friends, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas! If you’re like me, even though it was so much fun now you’re exhausted! I feel like I’m in recuperation mode from all the festivities and yet, here comes New Year’s!

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