You always hear that a baby changes things. Sure she changes your sleeping habits, your social life, and your marriage. However, I never realized how much my daughter would change what I think about, worry about, and become an advocate of. My daughter has changed the way I see the world. She has changed the way I see femininity and womanhood. She’s changed the way I see sexuality. And most importantly she’s changed the way I see God’s view of all of these things.
Category: Raising Girls
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3 Ways to Find a Mentor
The one piece of advice I give all single women is to find a mentor. Then, be teachable and listen to her. I say this for several reasons.
Singleness by nature is isolating. You spend a lot of time alone, especially if you live alone. However, God did not intend for us to live in isolation whether we are single or married. We are created for community.
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Weekend Prayers and Links
As a general rule, I’m not a worrier. That doesn’t mean I never worry. Worry’s just not one of my default traits. However, recently I’ve been worrying about something.
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7 Ways to Respond to, “So When Are You Getting Married?”
Driving to the annual family Christmas event (You know the one. The one where you see people you only see once a year.) memories of conversations from last year’s event began replaying in my head.
They started off innocent enough.
“So what are you doing now-a-days?” my distant aunt asked.
I always knew that was just the warm-up question. She has enough couth to know that pretending to know me well enough to ask personal questions would be poor manners. So instead I got a series of prerequisite questions. Then she went in for the kill.
“So when are you getting married?”
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Are You a Perfectionist Believing These Lies?
I never knew I was a perfectionist. Until it took me two hours to pick out a baby gift, pay for it, and drive it home, only to return it the next day because it wasn’t “perfect” enough. Then I knew. I, too, am a perfectionist.
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When I Thought Motherhood Would Bring Me Everything
It’s no secret that all I ever wanted to do was be a wife and mother. I mean, so much that when my mom asked me at five-years-old what I wanted to be when I grew up, I told her “a mommy.” That never changed.
It took me a long time to get there, though. I did not get married right after college. And I did not have babies in my twenties. I was single for a long time. However, now I see a glimpse of why. Of course, I do not know God’s exact thoughts, nor will I ever until I see Him face-to-face, but I see that God was preparing me during my singleness for something He wants me to do now. That is write and mentor all of you – my readers who are single (and the ones who may want to mentor singles or disciple their daughters well). (more…)
