When I was single I dated a man who was divorced. Today as I listen to single women tell their stories about dating divorced men, I remember my experience well. I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made. Choices based on the present but without enough regard on the past. These similarities make me think it is wise for women to ask four questions before dating a divorced man.
Category: Dating
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Do You Think a Boyfriend Will “Complete” You?
Most of us know the couple names, ‘Brangelina,’ ‘Kimye’, ‘Bennifer’. Without one another they just do not seem complete. The media defines these couples as one being. The Bible defines marriage as coming together as one, however, what happens when the couple’s name becomes the individual’s identity? What happens when the unity runs so deep the individuals believe they really are nothing without the other? It is common for all of us to believe an individual is incomplete without the other half. In the past I have believed lies such as:
- I am nothing without a boyfriend or husband.
- I will only be happy through marriage.
- I will only be complete when I am in a relationship.
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The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating {A Book Review and Giveaway}
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating is the sermon series where I first heard about the “One Year No Dating Challenge“. Unfortunately, I was married. I say unfortunately because when Andy Stanley mentioned it in the series I immediately thought, “Why didn’t I do that!” As I have admitted without shame, marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever done – even after being single for a long time. Now I tell women that the One Year No Dating Challenge is the one thing I wish I had done when I was single. I know it would have been life-changing.
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Crumbling Air Castles…How I Started Dating Divorcees
Not long ago it had never occurred to me to date a guy who had been married before. Honestly, I had just never given it a thought. Of course, I would end up marrying a wonderful Christian guy who had waited his whole life just for me! Why in the world would I ever think God might have something different for me? I had dreams of my future marriage built up in beautiful gilded air castles.
But that all changed several years ago, when I met Rick. We met through mutual friends and after several months of getting to know each other in group settings, it became clear that we were attracted to one another. It seemed like everything was headed in the right direction. Then it all changed…
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Why Your Status Should Be “Single” Until You’re Married
Several months ago I met a sweet, young, single woman for dinner. We talked and ate, and she mentioned that some friends of hers wanted to get into a small group or Bible study. She wondered if I’d be interested in leading it. So I asked her if all of the friends she was talking about were single.
She responded by saying, “Well, two of them are and then there’s me and one other girl.”
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So Single Women Don’t Buy Books about Singleness?
Back in February I attended a writing conference outside of Charlotte called Writers Bootcamp. As all writing conferencing are, it was overwhelming and encouraging all rolled into one.
While I was at the conference someone (and when I say someone I mean someone who should know – like a published author or editor or someone like that) said that single women don’t buy books about singleness.
Oh really?
