Category: 10 Days to Falling in Love

  • Fall in Love with Those in Need :: Day 4

    If you’ve been around Triple Braided for a few months you know that this past November I went to Burkina Faso, West Africa.  Believe it or not it’s been almost three months, and I still haven’t finished writing about my trip.  I know that sounds a little excessive – three months – to write about a ten day trip.  But that’s how much is in my heart about what I witnessed.  Writing about Burkina is not an easy feat because when I sit down at the computer all of those feelings, emotions, and memories come rushing out like a tidal wave that can’t be stopped – usually all down my face.  By the time I stop the drenching, then think, and finally write hours have gone by.  So I’m telling my story slowing.

    But I mention it here because I fell in love in Burkina Faso.  It was a quiet love, a love that comes over you in a way that you don’t know it will and are afraid it won’t ever again.  It’s a love that is different.  It’s a love that is outside of yourself.

    One afternoon I was sitting outside with my friend Imelda painting her fingernails.  We sat on concrete blocks that were being used to build a wall around the boys’ school.  As I painted her nails I glanced down and noticed her feet.  She was wearing flip-flops, and as expected in a country with little grass or concrete her feet were filthy from the dirt and dust.

    Looking at her feet I had this intense desire to get down on my knees and kneel at them to paint her toenails.  I didn’t know how I would get them clean enough to paint, but that didn’t matter.  I just wanted them to be pretty too.

    I asked her if I could paint her toenails and she adamantly said no.  Conscious of possibly offending her or disregarding a custom from her culture I didn’t proceed.  I just continued to paint her fingernails.

    Never before, however, have I ever felt the desire to kneel on a dirt ground to touch, hold, clean, and paint someone’s feet.  But in that moment nothing else mattered but that teenage girl – that teenage girl in need.

    This Valentine’s Day I encourage you to Fall in Love with Someone in Need, and there are so many ways to do so.  Serving in your community by making Valentine cards for children or the elderly.  Serving other single women in need at a women’s shelter or a pregnancy center.  Or even serving someone in need in your family or a friend.

    My life, my wants, my needs became really, really small in Burkina Faso.  I am not trying to tell you that now I am healed from selfishness.  But I can attest to this – not a day goes by that I do not think of Imelda.  And not a time goes by that I do not thank God in the midst of pitching-a-fit.

    Tell us your ideas or experiences with Falling in Love with Those in Need.
    We’re in the middle of a ten day series of Falling in Love!  With Valentine’s Day a week away, every woman who reads this probably has a different feeling, emotion, or expectation about this upcoming day.  Hopefully this series reminds us that Falling in Love is more than just candy and cards and kisses!
    As a gift to my readers we are also in the middle of a GIVEAWAY for your choice of a beautiful piece of scripture art from Amylee Weeks with Hidden in Your Heart!  Click below to enter before Friday!
    And on Friday a NEW GIVEAWAY will begin!  You don’t want to miss it!

    Fall in Love with Your Life {and Plan a Party} :: Day 1
    In this post I tell you how I threw a Valentine’s Day party for myself and all of my single girlfriends, and I show you how you can plan your own! (Plus there’s a link-up!)

    Fall in Love with Your Family {and enter an AWESOME GIVEAWAY} :: Day 2
    Learn how we can love our families better, and enter to win your choice of scripture art from Hidden in My Heart!

  • Fall in Love with Your Friends :: Day 3

    We met in the third grade – Mrs. Shreiner’s class.  I already had braces and she was petite and just plain cute.  We lived on opposite sides of the neighborhood – me on Camelot Ct. and her on Bluestone Dr. – not super close together, but close enough to walk.  Although we didn’t like to walk the whole way alone.  Instead we would decide on whose house we were going to play, meet in the middle, and then walk together the rest of the way.  The summer was the best because our ice cream sandwiches accompanied us as we walked.  I would carry two, one for me and one for her, and we would eat them together (usually sneaking another one when we got back to my house).

    With each of those walks back and forth from house to house we grew up – Christina and me – and roots of a friendship ever so deep planted hard in our hearts.  Today, 27 years later, we still talk at least once a week – sometimes more – and I still consider her the one person on this earth who knows me better than anyone.

    It’s the kind of knowing where she can look at me and just by the slightest shift in my facial expression she can tell something else has shifted.  Glancing across the room at each other all we have to do is look into each others’ eyes, and we know exactly what the other one wants to say but can’t at that moment.  And even on the phone no effort to disguise a tone can fool the other person.

    Christina is easy to love – truly love.

    But what creates true love in a friendship?

    1. The Absence of Jealousy

    We have lived a long life together.  She had more boyfriends than me.  She was well-liked and very pretty.  I got married first. She has two babies.  But despite all of the joys and trials that we experienced together I can honestly say that bouts of jealousy were extremely short-lived if there at all.  Our friendship was free from competition.  We wanted what was best for each other, and we accepted each others’ blessings and our own defeats.

    2. Patient Acceptance

    Christina and I are very different.  We have different personalities and gifts and even interests sometimes.  But she has always accepted me – including my quirks and my silliness – and loves me anyway.  When I want to analyze something just one more time after hours of already discussing it, she just listens.  When I say something insensitive, she either ignores it knowing that it wasn’t intended or she addresses it with me.

    3. Honest Authenticity

    Realness.  I can be real with her – myself – unedited.  This is freeing.  It is so nice to know that there is someone – a friend – who you can be yourself with and that you trust to be herself with you.  And I can trust her to say the hard things if I need to hear them.  The things that other people are probably thinking but too afraid to tell me.

    4. Genuine Care

    Christina and I genuinely care about each other, each others’ lives, and each others’ families.  We invest in all of the facets of our lives.  I want what is best for her, and she wants what is best for me.

    Tell me, how is true love shown in your friendships?

    This is the third day in the series “Falling in Love“.  Read the previous posts by clicking below, and don’t forget to enter the giveaway that ends on Friday, February 9th!  Oh, and another giveaway starts the next day!  As a way to bless you, my readers, on the Fall in Love journey!

    Fall in Love with Your Life {and Plan a Party} :: Day 1

    In this post I tell you how I threw a Valentine’s Day party for myself and all of my single girlfriends, and I show you how you can plan your own!  (Plus there’s a link-up!)

    Fall in Love with Your Family {and enter an AWESOME GIVEAWAY} :: Day 2

    Learn how we can love our families better, and enter to win your choice of scripture art from Hidden in My Heart!

  • Fall in Love with Your Family {and an AWESOME GIVEAWAY} :: Day 2

    “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Timothy 5:8

    The word “family” brings up all kinds of emotions and meanings.
    Your first thought might be, “Well, I don’t have a family.  That’s the problem.”  Or maybe you’re a single mom, so you have children, but you don’t quite feel like you have a family. Or you live far away from your parents and siblings and have for a while, so family is more of an occasion a few times a year than a day-to-day relationship.  Even more devastating is when one or both of your parents have passed away leaving you feeling somewhat like an orphan.  This was my experience a few years ago when my mom died.
    Then there are all of kinds of family dynamics and structures and sin that creep into every family.  To even approach the topic of family seems overwhelming because as much as we want a one-size-fits-all for family, there just isn’t one.
    Regardless we are still called to love our families.  No matter what that looks like in our everyday lives.
    Timothy says, “If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” (1 Timothy 3:5).  Basically, if you can’t love the people in your life now, how can God trust you with other responsibilities to love and care for people – in the church – but also, just maybe, in a husband and children?
    I will be honest, this is hard for me.  It is easier for me to love my husband than to love my parents and brother.  I think it’s because I have had more time with the humanness in my parents and brother.  They have hurt me, and I have hurt them.
    But as a single woman, loving our families – the families we have been given, however that looks – is God’s way of sanctifying us (making us more like Him), and preparing us for our future families. 
    It is important to love our families and learn how to do so better.
    1. Forgive them.
    Forgiveness is a huge topic and too deep to discuss fully in this post, but study what God says about forgiveness in the Bible, listen to sermons about forgiveness, and pray, pray, pray! Ask God to soften your heart and help you to forgive.
    2. Make them a priority.
    Think about your family’s needs and feelings before your own. Maybe you’re tired and really don’t feel like making a phone call – call them anyway. Maybe it’s too far or too much effort to go visit – visit them anyway. Even if doing these things makes your life a little more inconvenient put their wishes and desires before your own.
    3. Invest in their lives.
    Develop a relationship with your family even if you live far away. Remember them on special days and holidays. Ask about the details in their lives – their work, interests, health, individual families.
    4. Serve them.
    Whatever their current needs, help them. Maybe it’s help babysitting, packing for a move, making a meal, going with them to the doctor, or just a fun day out.
    5. Pray for them.
    Pray each day for your family. I have a prayer schedule, and each day of the week I pray for different people. Each member of my family has a special day. Also, thank God for them. Not only will this help you see your family as a gift, but it will also help you forgive them in any areas that need forgiveness.
    Today, ask God to show you ways you can Fall in Love with Your Family!
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    Amylee creates beautiful scripture prints, block art, and framed art, and as a special Valentine’s Day gift to you she’s giving away your choice:
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    It’s simple!
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    There are two mandatory entries:
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  • Fall in Love with Your Life {and Plan a Party} :: Day 1

    February is a big month. We find out if flip-flops and t-shirts are on the horizon or if we need to keep out the scarfs and gloves a little longer.  We remember a time in America when not showing love to your neighbors was a cultural norm and a president who set in motion for change to one day occur. And we wear red to honor those hearts inside of us that we want to stay strong and healthy.

    Then there is the one day that we associate with February more than any other: the love day.

    The day that if you are in love, have love, or feel love, then you love it!  But if not, then it’s just a reminder, and you want nothing more than to just go from February 13th to February 15th.

    The year was 2006, and I was on my upswing of embracing my single life.  I was tired of living in an imaginary future thinking about how big my world would be “if only I were married”.

    On Valentine’s Day that year I decided that I was going to celebrate it just like everyone else – all the people who would be going on fun dates that night, cooking in together, or making Valentine’s with their kids.

    And so, I had a Valentine’s Day party!  And invited all of my single girlfriends!

    Triple Braided is beginning a ten day series called “Falling in Love”.  Today we are Falling in Love with Our Lives by embracing this day of love and planning a Valentine’s Dayparty!  We have 10 days to plan it, so let’s get started!

    I used Pinterest to pin my most favorite ideas!

    The Invitation

    Who? :: You and your girlfriends

    What? :: A Valentine’s Day Party

    When? :: You decide the date.  Either on Valentine’s Day or a day before or after.

    Where? :: Wherever you want – your home, a restaurant, or another fun place!

    Why? :: To Fall in Love with Your Life!

    How? :: Decide on your guest list, date and time, location, decorations, guest favors, activities, and of course FOOD!  Below are some wonderful ideas I found.

    Decorations

    A Few Favorites:

    Valentine’s Day Banner with book pages

    Valentine Flowers Centerpiece

    Heart Hanging Decorations

    Table Garland (and really everything here!)

    Check out my board on Pinterest for more ideas!

    Guest Favors

    A Few Favorites:

    Bottled Up Love

    Made with Love Jars

    Candy Bags with cute printable labels

    Tic-Tac-Holders

    Check out my board on Pinterest for more ideas!

    Activities

    If you’re like my friends and I, we do not need a whole lot of activities because most of the time is spent talking!  But here are a few ideas if you want to do something else (while you talk)!

    • Watch a girly movie (or any movie).
    • Create something – art, jewelry, scrapbook, custom cards, etc. (Pinterest is great for ideas!),
    • Cook together.
    • Make Valentine cards (if before the actual day) or another gift as a service project for children in need or for elderly people where you live. (Pinterest is great for homemade Valentine card ideas!)

    Check out my board on Pinterest for more ideas!

    The Menu

    There are so many different ideas for the menu!  If you’re having your party at home consider one of these fun and tasty themes!

    Check out my board on Pinterest for more ideas!