It’s day 15 of the series 31 Days of Lessons Learned from My 20’s. If you want to read all the posts in this series, you can find every post listed here. If you want to have all the posts delivered to your email inbox, subscribe here.

Yesterday I wrote about my intense struggle with my career, calling, purpose, whatever you want to call it. I’m still struggling in some ways. However, there’s one thing I’ve learned that’s wise: Get a hobby, then make money doing it.

You’ve probably heard that you should work at something that you’d do for free. I think this advice is mainly so that you’ll be satisfied in what you do. But I have other reasons for getting a hobby and making money doing it. And by the word hobby, I don’t necessarily mean something you do for fun, even though it can be that. I more mean something that you can do on your own. For example, tutoring or being an accounting aren’t necessarily “hobbies”, however, you can do them independently of an employer and charge people for your services.

1. Your priorities will probably change.

I can’t say that they will definitely change because they don’t change for every woman. However, I know many women who started off strong in their careers with plans to move forward, and then they had children and decided that’s not the lifestyle they want to continue. When you have something you can do and make money on your own, without having an employer, then you can more easily fulfill your responsibilities or desires or needs (whatever they are for you and your family).

2. You will be less dependent.

When you are able to make money doing something you are good at without being employed by someone else, you are less dependent on others to supply your income. This is especially helpful when you lose your job or your husband loses his job.

I often say that the best jobs are the jobs you can do anywhere. Jobs that are in any city or town. Jobs for services that everyone needs. I want to add to that the best jobs are jobs you can do anywhere and that you can do without being employed by someone else. I am not saying that it is easy. Sometimes it is much easier just to go to an office everyday and have someone else tell you what to do. But if you can make it work, it usually works well.

What do I wish I had done in my 20’s?

I wish I had really explored what God wants me to do, what I’m designed to do, and then learned to make money doing it. 

Here are some suggestions: tutoring (reading, high school, college, test prep), teach piano or some other instrument, photography, graphic design, writing/blogging, sewing, accounting, financial planning, consulting, virtual assisting, mentoring, life coaching, creating art, creating stationary and cards, pet sitting.

Obviously the list is endless. 

But spend this time learning how to make money at your hobby (or something you’re really good at doing)!

What would you add to this list of possible jobs you can make money doing?

It’s day 14 of the series 31 Days of Lessons Learned from My 20’s. If you want to read all the posts in this series, you can find every post listed here. If you want to have all the posts delivered to your email inbox, subscribe here.

When I was growing up my mom always said to me, “You can be anything you set your mind to be!” I know her words were meant with the deepest love and well-intention. She said them to encourage me, to plant seeds of self-confidence, and to promote a strong work ethic. However, her words weren’t correct. Or at least not entirely.

I shouldn’t be just anything I set my mind to be, and you shouldn’t either.

If you were to ask me what my two biggest struggles in life have been thus far I would tell you:

1. singleness (Which is now replaced with marriage. Marriage is super hard for me!! I’m a tad-bit selfish!)

2. my calling, career, or purpose.

I was in my second year of teaching, and finishing up my graduate classes for my Master’s degree program, when I knew I was not meant to be a teacher. Oh, I set my mind to being a teacher, for sure! I worked hard, graduated top of my class in undergraduate and graduate school, stayed late and arrived early. But I strongly disliked teaching.

I found myself starting a career with two degrees in hand that I absolutely loathed. I know that is a very harsh word to use, but it’s the truth.

My problem? I didn’t ask God if He wanted me to be a teacher.

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

Years later I took a spiritual gifts test.

Personality tests, temperament tests, and spiritual gifts tests fascinate me! I can sit for hours and take them over and over. What’s so fascinating to me is that generally speaking they all seem to say about the same thing about me and they all match up to how I would describe myself.

So guess what is my strongest spiritual gift? Teaching!! 

What I discovered is that I like the act of teaching. I like standing in front of people and teaching them something new. I like public speaking where I’m teaching. I like writing on this blog where in many ways I’m teaching. I like mentoring young women.

I don’t like teaching small children in a public school setting. 

The more I discovered about my personality and gifts, I realized, too, that even though my one of my spiritual gifts is teaching, teaching in a classroom with children does not fit my personality. I am an introvert. I get completely drained by high doses of talking and engagement and the requirement to be “on” all the time. And as you know, that’s exactly what elementary classrooms consist of!

“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” 1 Peter 4:9

God has intricately designed each one of us with gifts and personality traits and skills to accomplish His purpose for our lives. Sure, we may have the intelligence or financial means or determination to be anything we desire to be, but will we be honoring God if it’s not His purpose for us? And will we experience a life of joy?

My advice: You shouldn’t be just anything you set your mind to be. Instead, be who God created you to be. From that place you will influence the most people of His glory and you will be the most fulfilled. 

 How has God gifted you? What is He calling you to do with your life to bring Him glory?

 

It’s day 13 of the series 31 Days of Lessons Learned from My 20’s. If you want to read all the posts in this series, you can find every post listed here. If you want to have all the posts delivered to your email inbox, subscribe here.

This verse has been on my heart all week and has brought me so much comfort. God  was in this day, today, all of those years in my twenties. And He is in all of the days of my future. Remember today that God is not limited my time or space. He is in our present and our future.

How does this verse bring you comfort? 

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It’s day 11 of the series 31 Days of Lessons Learned from My 20’s. If you want to read all the posts in this series, you can find every post listed here. If you want to have all the posts delivered to your email inbox, subscribe here.

Just yesterday I sold you (or I hope I sold you) on the importance of friendships. Now I’m telling you to learn to be alone. There’s a reason for this.

Twenty-somethings typically learn the art of distraction fairly early. At least I did. Even though I wasn’t busy with family-type-things yet, I was busy will other activities that took up much of my time and my mind.

You see, you can be by yourself physically and not be alone mentally.

Learning to be alone is a good thing.

You know, even now – seven years removed from my 20’s with a husband and baby – I still struggle with truly being alone. There’s always something pulling at my mind wanting me to put that one load of laundry in the wash or send that one email. And of course there’s Facebook. Don’t even get me started there. It’s my biggest weakness.

A trend, though, that I have seen throughout my 20’s and now in my 30’s is that I can’t or don’t seem to hear God’s voice very clearly. I’m constantly making decisions, even after praying about them, but then questioning whether God really wanted me move forward with them. It’s like as I’m praying either my mind’s already made up, so I can’t truly hear His voice, or my mind’s so saturated with other thoughts that His voice can’t get in (or both!).

Jesus was alone often.

 “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Luke 5:16

But I did that. When I was a twenty-something without a family I was alone often. And I prayed.

And now I do that. As a thirty-something I have to be very intentional to be alone and pray, but I still find space in my day to do just that.

So why do I still feel like I don’t hear God’s voice clearly?

In order for us to clearly hear God speak to us, not only must we get alone physically, we must also be alone mentally.

“The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers.” 1 Peter 4:7

When Jesus retreated alone to pray, He didn’t carry with Him His to-do list of all the people He needed heal back in town. He didn’t say words out loud to God while at the same time in His mind make a plan of attack.

Jesus was completely alone physically and mentally. It’s in that empty space that God entered. 

God speaks in the alone spaces.

I can’t help but wonder what decisions I would have made differently if I had gotten alone with God physically and mentally as a twenty-something woman. I know they would have been different because I would have heard His voice more clearly.

Lesson #11: Learn to be alone with Jesus physically and mentally. 

 How can you be alone with Jesus today both physically and mentally?

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