Tag: Intentional by Grace

I have a confession. I don’t always like my husband. Yes, you read correctly. I don’t always like him. Love? Of course. But not like. And guess what? He doesn’t always like me either!

If I’m not careful I can not like him a lot. That is if I focus on myself. But I want to like my husband. I want to remember all of his good qualities, why I married him, and even why I love him.

And I want to remember these things when the stakes are high. When we’re in the middle of a fight or I’m at my whits end. That way I can diffuse the situation by reminding myself that my emotions do not dictate reality. Most likely in a few hours, or maybe a few days, I will think he hung the moon again.

Otherwise I start to say words that are left out there, forever, hanging in his memories and mine. I start making threats that are not honoring to him or our marriage. And most of all, I start to doubt – everything – including God.

This is where my dislike turns into something completely different. 

Today over at Intentional by Grace I write about what I did recently to help myself stop and focus on all I like about my husband – even when my blood is boiling and my face is hot!

Join me there, and be sure to leave a comment telling me how you diffuse your dislike for your husband!

Nothing shows you all of your bad habits like marriage does.

When I got married it was like I had a human mirror around me at all times reflecting my shortcomings.

I leave my shoes all over the house, and my husband trips. Oops!

There are six glasses of water in our bedroom, and one spills. Oops, again!

Then there are the more serious bad habits. The ones with potentially lasting consequences.

So what do we do with our spouse’s bad habits?

Today is my monthly contributor post at Intentional by Grace where I share my ideas for doing just that – dealing with our spouse’s bad habits. Will you join me there?

Back in May the state of North Carolina, where I live, made a statement. A statement that was talked about all over the country. A statement in the form of an amendment. An amendment to define marriage.

This amendment made me think a lot about marriage and what the Bible says about marriage. We know that the Bible defines marriage as a covenant between a man and woman.

But are our marriages operating as covenants? Or have our marriages become contracts?

I wrote about this over at Intentional by Grace. Will you join me there?