Your Daughter and Fifty Shades of Grey

You always hear that a baby changes things. Sure she changes your sleeping habits, your social life, and your marriage. However, I never realized how much my daughter would change what I think about, worry about, and become an advocate of. My daughter has changed the way I see the world. She has changed the way I see femininity and womanhood. She’s changed the way I see sexuality. And most importantly she’s changed the way I see God’s view of all of these things.

For instance, only last year did I buy my first one-piece swimsuit. For years I wore a bikini. Then I had a baby girl, and I began to ask myself, “Why am I really choosing this swimsuit?” Is it because culture tells me I need to wear it to be young or sexy or simply not a prude? Am I wearing it to get attention? Am I wearing it to get a better suntan? Am I wearing it because it honors God? And then . . . do I want my daughter wearing a bikini? What is the purpose behind me choosing a bikini for my 18-month-old? What message does that choice send her about her body? And what message would it send her if her mom wore a bikini but she wasn’t allowed to?

I wrestled with similar thoughts when the book Fifty Shades of Grey was published and became so popular among women – in particular moms. I’ve written a few times about Fifty Shades of Grey, including this post where a reader commented and shared her own real-life story of Fifty Shades of Grey and this post where I review the book Pulling Back the Shades by Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery.

This book breaks my heart. It is a blatant tool from the enemy to keep women oppressed and in bondage under the disguise of power and freedom. It is an attack on adult women, yes, but it is also an attack on the most vulnerable who are trying to assimilate in this world – our daughters.

As moms, we can deal with sin in our culture in a few ways. We can get angry and resentful, bury our heads in the sand, or we can think of it as an opportunity to grow our daughters’ spiritual maturity and relationship with Jesus. ~ from “Why You Should Talk to Your Daughter about Fifty Shades of Grey” at MoretoBe.com

I’ll be honest, I just want it to go away. I want my daughter to grow up fully knowing and believing who she in Christ without the world bombarding her with lies of who she’s supposed to be.

But it’s not going away. So I better deal with it. This is the way I’m dealing with it.

I wrote a post called “Why You Should Talk to Your Daughter about Fifty Shades of Grey” at MoretoBe.com.

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