Category: relationship with Jesus

  • Lies Women Believe about Sin :: Summer Online Bible Study

    We’re on chapter 4 on our Lies Women Believe Summer Bible Study this week – Lies Women Believe about Sin. You can get all the handout’s here.

    Download the handout here –> Lies Women Believe About Sin Chapter 4 Chart

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    I think that from the outside looking in, maybe from the perspective of someone who doesn’t know Jesus, I look like I have my act together. At the moment I don’t struggle with any of the, what you would call, “big sins”. I don’t have a problem with partying or alcohol or smoking or drugs or promiscuity or pornography.  I’ve never even been one to cuss.

    No, instead my sins lie on the inside where no one can seem them. I struggle with things that people may not even think of as sin but instead just think of as human nature – pride, jealousy, haughtiness, gossip, eating for comfort, having a critical spirit. I could go on, but I won’t.

    I often think that when a person submits her life to Christ and becomes a Christian, it’s the outside sins that God deals with first. You know the ones that aren’t socially acceptable. The partying stops. The alcoholic gets sober. The drug addict goes into recovery. The promiscuous girl settles down. And suddenly there’s clean talk from their mouth. This is when you may think you’ve arrived and all of your sin is taken away.

    Then you find there’s a whole other group of sins hiding, that no one sees, and you realize the depth of your brokenness. With full intentions of not comparing yourself to the cute girl in class, you compare yourself anyway. Jealousy hangs there and then leads to hating her even though you don’t even know her. Or you find being critical or gossiping after promising yourself that next time you’d just keep your mouth shut.

    Sometimes I tell myself that my sins are not as bad as other people’s “bigger sins” and so they’re no big deal. “At least I don’t party, smoke, drink, cuss, or sleep around, right?” This is what goes through my mind. The funny thing is I don’t feel any “cleaner” for not doing these sins. In fact, I feel just as messed-up. Why? Because “my sin isn’t as big and is no big deal” is a lie that Satan wants us to believe to keep us separated from God.

    At the core of our being we are sinful people and without Jesus there is no way to make ourselves right again. All sin, even sin at our core, separates us from God. The longer we walk in our relationship with Jesus, the more we realize just how dependent we are on Him for our every breath. Awareness of our sin because greater and our brokenness becomes too much to handle.

    I’ve come to realize that these “little sins”, that aren’t little at all, keep me in just as much bondage as partying or sleeping around or whatever. Even though the consequences might be different, my little sins carry just as much weight as bigger sins. This is the truth that God wants me to remember, and the truth that will set me free.

    Share with me! Do you believe the lie that your sins aren’t as bad as other people’s “bigger sins”?

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  • Lies Women Believe about Themselves :: Summer Online Bible Study

    We’re starting chapter 3 of Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss today for our Summer Online Bible Study!  If you didn’t download chapter 2’s handout, get it here.

    Download the handout here –> Lies Women Believe About Themselves Handout

    The other day I got off the treadmill at 5:48 in the morning. It was the first time back after a long winter hiatus from running. I accomplished my plan of getting up early. That was a positive. And I was on the treadmill for 30 minutes – the goal I had set for myself that day. But despite getting up early and meeting my goal time, I still couldn’t get one thought out of my mind.

    I didn’t run the whole time. A few times I stopped and walked.

    I call myself a runner because if I’m going to exercise I’m going to run. You get the most bang-for-your-buck with running and for someone who would rather not exercise, running is the way to go in my opinion. I don’t call myself a runner because you won’t see me in 20 degree weather crushing snow in running shoes. Nope. If it’s not at least 55 degrees I’m not happy about running. So I can’t be put in the “runner” category with those who pound the pavements season after season even though they live in North Dakota. Those are the real runners.

    Do You Believe You'll Never Be Good Enough?

    Even though I might be in the “casual runner” category, I still like the thrill of going a little farther, beating my fastest time, and buying new running shoes. And I’m a casual runner whose perfectionism is not lost on the treadmill or on the pavement.

    Once I start, I don’t like to stop until I’m done.

    A few years ago I ran a half marathon. I didn’t care about my time during that race. I didn’t even care who finished before me. All I cared about was that I didn’t stop running. That was my goal, and that day I accomplished my goal. I ran for over 13 miles, and I never stopped to walk. Slowed down? Yes. Stopped? No.

    I sat on the floor, that morning at 5:48, and untying my shoes I felt like a failure. “Why did I even get up early?” I asked myself. “It wasn’t worth it. I’ll never be good enough again.

    This is not the first time I’ve had an all-or-nothing approach to my life – a mentality that I have to be perfect and perform perfectly or else all is worthless. Most of the time I feel I’m not good enough.

    But do you know, every time I’ve thought these words I’ve been right. I’ll never be good enough because my standards for myself are too high. In many ways they’re even higher than God’s for me. 

    I’ve come to realize that this “I’ll never be good enough” attitude is really a disquised form of pride. By setting my standards higher than God’s standards for me, and then trying to accomplish them in my own effort, I’m declaring that my ways are higher than God’s ways, and I’m good enough to do life on my own.

    This is why I desperately need Jesus. 

    The Cross fills the gap for our imperfections. It allows us to be ourselves – imperfect but redeemed people who are constantly on the journey to holiness. But we live as though our personal standards for ourselves, and even sometimes other people’s standards for us, are higher than God’s grace. We think that we must make things happen in our lives when really we can’t. Only God’s grace through us can.

    Are you telling yourself this same lie – I’ll never be good enough? Go ahead and admit that it’s true, and then allow that truth to send you to Jesus who makes you good enough.

    Talk to me . . . what lies about yourself do you believe? 

    Use the handout above and the outline in this post to replace your lies with truth.

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  • Lies Women Believe About God :: Summer Online Bible Study

    Today’s the day! We’re kicking off our Summer Online Bible Study and replacing lies we believe with God’s truth! It’s not too late for you to join! Head over to the Facebook group here.

    So this is how it will work. Each Wednesday I will introduce the chapter for the week and post the PDF handout that includes the scripture readings and homework. I encourage you to write out the truth for each Bible verse on the handout. If you don’t want to write out the truths for every Bible verse for ever lie, then just write out the truths for the lies you struggle with personally. Then, join the conversation in the comments here or in the private Facebook group.

    Today we are starting with chapter 2:

    Download the handout here –> Lies Women Believe About God Handout

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  • Can You Really Change Your Thinking?

    I don’t know about you, but my thoughts come like rapid-fire. I will try so hard to think about “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable”, but my thoughts bombard my mind before I can stop them. Unfortunately, this stream of consciousness often leads me down a never-ending path of lies I believe about myself, my life, my relationships, or God. 

    Can you really change your thinking

    This past week I listened to Tricia Goyer’s podcast. She interviewed Holley Gerth about her new book You’re Going to Be Okay. (Single friends, this is a must listen to! Please take some time to listen to it!) In the interview Holley talks about how we train our brains to repeatedly think thoughts that we think about the most. However, we can create new neural pathways in our brains when we consistently think new thoughts.

    The lies we believe are holding us back from all God wants to accomplish in us and through us. When we believe lies instead of God’s truth, we are ultimately believing the enemy, the father of lies, instead of God. The one discipline that will completely transform our selves, our relationships with others, and our relationship with God is to do the hard work of retraining our minds.

    It reminds me of muscle memory. Do you know how our muscles remember what we’ve trained them to do, so they automatically move in certain ways without us being conscious of them? The same is true for our minds. We must retrain them so that when they come rapid-fire they are God’s truth.

    Today I am honored to be a guest writer at RebeccaHalton.com where I am discussing a common lie that single women believe.

    Rebecca is a writer for several websites, a published author, the co-founder of TeamRedeemed.org, and a “redeemed adulteress”. She bravely shares her story of being a young woman formerly involved in an adulterous relationship with a married man as a ministry to other women. It is a great privilege to share writing space with her today. Please head over to her blog to read more about a lie single women believe. 

    This summer we’re retraining our minds!

    Please join us this summer for an online Bible study where we will retrain our minds and replace the lies we believe with God’s truth. We will be reading Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s book, Lies Women Believe. Although purchasing a book will help you to go deeper into the study, you do not have to buy a book to participate! Please join us anyway! Read more details here!  And please let me know if you have any questions!

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  • Are You Ignoring God’s Warnings?

    A few years ago I was looking for a part-time job. I came across a job opportunity for a reading teacher at the local community college. Since I am a former reading teacher, and have a master’s degree in reading education, I was qualified for the position. There was no reason to not go on the interview and accept the position. Except that God told me not to.

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    No, He didn’t audibly tell me not to take the position, but as I prayed for the opportunity and prayed through the interview process, there was still this uneasiness in my spirit. You see, even though I was definitely qualified for the position, it did not line up with where God was leading me. And due to the fact that my past proved I disliked teaching in an academic setting, it did not seem to be the position I should take.

    But I took the job anyway only to resign a month later.

    That is just one story of many I could tell you about me refusing God’s warnings. I am beginning to listen to His voice quicker, but I am also still a work in progress.

    How often do you ignore God’s warnings?

    In Matthew 26, Matthew tells us the story of Jesus sitting with His disciples and eating a last supper with them. After they eat, Jesus takes a walk with them to the Mount of Olives. Here Jesus gives His disciples a warning. He tells them that every one of them will fall away from Him that night.

    Peter, as brash and passionate as he is, tells Jesus that the other guys may fall away, he will never fall away. Jesus then warns Peter again and tells him that he will, in fact, deny Him three times before the rooster crows. 

    Later Jesus gave Peter and two other disciples the honored privilege to step aside with Him and keep watch and pray. But even though Peter was warned that temptation was on the way, he arrogantly did not believe Jesus’ warning, and he fell asleep. When Jesus came back and saw Peter asleep He even questioned him. Jesus asked Peter why he couldn’t just stay awake and pray so that he wouldn’t fall into temptation.

    It’s fascinating to me that Peter, having Jesus in the flesh right beside him, still did not listen to Jesus’ warning. I hope that if Jesus gave me a warning I would spend time fasting and praying to prepare for what was to come. But if I’m truthful, my past actions tell me I would be no more diligent in preparing than Peter.

    What warnings is God giving you today? We do not have Jesus in the flesh beside us, but as Christians we do have the Holy Spirit. God speaks to us through the Holy Spirit. He warns us all the time of what is coming. Do you listen to Him? Do you spend your time preparing for the temptations and trials to come by praying and reading His Word and even fasting?

    How are you going to begin now preparing for the warnings God is giving you?

    The Summer Online Bible Study is staring soon, and I want you to join us! You don’t even need to buy a book!

    Find out all the details here! 

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  • You’re Invited to a Summer Online Bible Study!

    Okay, so summer is here! Our lives might be winding down a bit, but we don’t want our relationship with Jesus to wind down with it! Let’s stay in the Word this summer and learn to replace those lies we keep believing season after season with God’s Truth!

    Invite to Bible Study 3

    This summer, from May 28th to July 30th, I’m hosting an online Bible study right here! We’ll read the book Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss and discuss it in a private Facebook group. (more…)